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Friday, January 27, 2012

Producing reasonably secure individuals – #’s 11 & 12

This is the continuation of a list from this month’s Effective Family Communication newsletter (you can sign up by clicking on “Receive Our Newsletter” in the upper right corner of this page).

#11: Protecting them even when they say they don't need or want protecting.

Keep Me SafeThis is difficult because our kids may resist our attempts to protect them while still needing it.  They need boundaries regarding where they may go, with whom, when, and what they may do while there.  Don’t abdicate your role as parent because a teenager says he/she doesn’t need your help.

#12: Letting them suffer consequences so they learn that mistakes matter, even if unintentional.

This is the other side of the same coin.  Protecting our children doesn’t mean shielding them from all consequences.  For many young adults the consequences their parents allow them to experience are some of the most memorable seasons of learning.

I’m sure you’ve got other suggestions for producing reasonably secure individuals.  I’d love to hear them!

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  1. Jim HollanderJanuary 27, 2012 at 4:09 PM

    Thanks Stephen... I plan to share these with my House Church members

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