Judy and I have been asked to speak at a Valentine’s Day dinner for the young couples from our church. Until recently we wanted to think we were a “young couple,” but as we approach 25 years of marriage this summer, we can no longer keep up that charade.
Here are the ten insights we are sharing – of course, we’ll provide some illustrations and explanations when we speak tonight. Hope one is of interest and value to you.
- Judy: Give up the need to be right on all of the details.
- Stephen: You can win the argument and lose the heart of your spouse
- Judy: Speak your spouse’s love language / understand their personality type (Myers-Briggs).
- Stephen: Pick a personality assessment, know it, and apply its insights to your relationship.
- Judy: Don’t air your spouse’s issues to friends.
- Stephen: Read the books, listen to the speakers (like us), and then do what works for you. Make your marriage your own.
- Judy: We are good at forgiving and forgetting.
- Stephen: Quit hinting and mindreading – say “This is what I need from you.”
- Judy: Be your spouse’s best friend.
- Stephen: Spend money on your relationship – invest in dating (babysitters when kids are young) and time away.
May you have a blessed culturally mandated expression of love on February 14th!
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